well i was using the latest version...i downloaded it from
http://www.apple.com/itunes/overview/and installed it, but as said before, it was a no go.
i uninstalled, rebooted, installed, then rebooted. i opened itunes and the processes came up in the task manager. but no window opened up still.
hmm i researched this problem online and it seems a possible solution is to go to task manager and set itunes priorities to above normal. i just hope that works.