I'm in a bad situation

PohTayToez

PohTayToez

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So, I've just realized that my roommate that was assigned to me in my dorm has been stealing money from me. Over the last 1-2 months there have been several occasions in which I will open my wallet and it will seem that am missing some cash. I work in a restaurant in which $80-$200 can be made a night in tips, so I generally have more cash on me than the average person. I'm a pretty absent minded person, and I usually don't know how much money I have in my wallet, so when it's seemed that I have less cash than I should, I just assume that I am just imagining it, however my suspicions arose when about three weeks ago when at least $200 went missing. It's kinda hard not to notice that, but there was a decent period of time between the time in which I knew I had the money and when I noticed it was missing, so I thought I might have dropped it somewhere or something like that. Then, last Saturday I left my work place with $160+ in cash. On Tuesday, I was at Walmart and I open my wallet to pay for my stuff and there is like $20 in it. I'm pretty sure I only spent about $20-$40 between then and when I had $160 so at that point over $100 went missing. That's when I seriously started to suspect him, so last night I made sure to count how much I had ($62) before I went to bed, and I left my wallet out in the open on my desk. I wake up, get dressed and leave and as soon as I leave the room I open my wallet and there is $12 left... he stole the $50 bill that I had in there.

So now I am 100% sure that he is stealing my money and I don't know exactly what to do. Our relationship is a little weird... we've lived together in a tiny room for 3 months now and really haven't hardly talked to each other at all, but he's not the type I would really think would steal. He's quite and we haven't ever given each other any trouble. One thing that REALLY bothers me about it is the fact that he's obviously pretty well off. He wears nice clothes... I've even seen some Armani. He has a new KRZR, a new iPod, a decent laptop, a shelf full of expensive cosmetics... his parents have to be decently wealthy. Then, if you look at me, my parents have nothing. My mom (I've never known my father) is thousands of dollars in debt to the IRS... I've had to work to earn everything I've ever owned... I'm paying my own way through college... so it really rubs me the wrong way when some rich kid thinks he can take money from me.

I've thought about it a bit, and I don't think I want to confront him directly about it right away. I want to take this higher up, but I have to have proof, so I'm going to see if I can't get a hold of a camcorder and set it up to catch him in the act. I doubt I could get him in too much trouble if I took it to the police as I really can't prove how much he's taken, but with some luck I might be able to get him kicked out of school.

What do you guys think I should do?

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(dang, I meant to put this in off-topic, so if someone could move it that would be awesome)

Also, I might mention, it's not a matter of me being afraid of him. I'm a big guy, I could easily beat the shit out of him, and right now I think that I would love to, but I have bad experience with that sort of thing. It doesn't matter what provocation there is or who starts a fight, I ALWAYS seem to get blamed for it, and I really don't want to get kick out of college or get assault charged brought on me.
 
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That's just horrible; I think you should go to the police and get them to mark some bills. Then see if he nicks them by taking him down the next morning. If the bills are marked the same then theft can be pursued.
 
What an idiot, its making me mad just reading this. If it was me i would catch him in the act and then beat the crap ouot of him.
^Probably not the advice you're looking for.

Anyway, I think setting up a camcorder sounds good, and then i think you should take it to the police and if you can get him kicked out of school. Oh yeh I would find out why on earth he's nicking your money in the first place as well.
 
I say go ahead and nail him in the act as you were saying. Take the tape and turn it around on him directly. Tell him there are three options.
1. Give back ALL the money he stole (he should have some estimate of that)
2. Don't give the money back, and the tape goes to the School, the police and across the school network.
3. Don't give the money back, and it goes to his parents. Write them a letter with the tape. If they are respectable they will attempt to pay it back, and probably kick his a$$.

With everything, also demand he moves..

I would try to get him caught in the act 2-3 times so he cant turn around and say "I was borring money, we do it all the time." The 2 options is HARSH and would only do it as a last resort. Good luck!
 
I'm also stuck as to why this guy likes to take money. I'm fairly well-off (although I buy clothes once every blue moon if possible and I use my phone for an MP3 player and I don't use hair-care products) and I've never felt such an urge, it would seem that perhaps this person is using their ill-gotten gains to fund such an extravagant lifestyle.
 
i dont know what to suggest in this situation. the camcorder idea sounds good.

Good luck with getting your money back.. and try sleeping with your wallet under your pillow or hidden in future so he cant take it as easily.
 
I would set up a camcorder and tape him stealing money...then on a friday night tell him (Hey lets watch a movie) pop the tape in when he is sitting on the couch and when he is watching himself stealing money out of your wallet break his F***ing legs with a baseball bat! I hate thieves and I would make it the most painful experience he ever had!!!
 
I remember seeing this on TV. His roommate kept stealing money, so he put a camcorder and caught him!

He then confronted him, then he got really violent and pissed, the fact that he got caught.

So be careful when confronting him. I would call someone, your school, the cops. He is also rich, so he can be dangerous. Rich people tend to go crazy over little things, and they tend to spend a large amount of their money trying win or ruin your life
 
Go with the camcorder idea. If you don't really want a confrontation for the reason stated above (rich kids can be an ass some times, especially those that are pampered by the parents), just talk to your school residence hall administrator and ask them to move you with a different roommate. They will definitely ask you for a reason, so show them the video you got (getting 2 or 3 separate incidents would be a stronger evidence). I'm sure your school residence hall admin wouldn't mind moving you to a different place.

In any case, good luck with everything.
 
I say catch him in the act and turn him in, confront him if you choose too but be careful .If you don't stop him now and you move out or he moves out whats to keep him from doing it again to someone else there. I for one can not stand a thief and like some others have said would confront him and beat the crap out of him.Good luck with a tough decision.
 
what type of laptop do you have? Do you have one with a built in web cam? I know with my Macbook Pro I can write scripts to activate the camera at a given time. You can set money on your keyboard and if he takes it the camera will pick it up. A digital video camera will work as well like mentioned beforehand, but no one expects it from your camera on your laptop.
 
wow thats horrible theifs are jerks but setting up a camcorder sounded like a very good idea but be sure to tape 3-4 times he does it
 
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