That really thin coat I made in the video did not appear to be making good contact, if you looked at the heat sink after I took it off, there wasn't a square, it was more like a triangle, and the parts of the square that were not there, there were a few random dots. When applied thicker you do get a full square, right now I know there will be a big messy square there because I added so much, and I have applied and reapplied the paste at least eight times now, both times I did it super thin you did not get left with a nice even square of paste on the heat sink. The copper shims are so cheap, it is worth a try, if it doesn't work the next logical step should be the psu correct? After that I would guess gpu or not enough air flow because I would be grasping at straws.
I don't want to take pictures now because I actually have temps that are actually within the safe range, but still hot, it is the first time I got it to work well enough I am not worried about the thing burning up for good, and I am nearly out of paste. But I can tell you, it will look like it does in the beginning of my video (except messier this time). My fiancee did not understand and kept the camera pointing at the heat sink for too long, but you can see a square of paste on the heat sink, and the chip was also covered.