When doing SLI, the cards have to be the same chip. For example, you can do SLI with 2 560's, 2 780's, 3 770's, 4 Titans,etc.
When doing SLI with different amounts of VRAM, the card with the higher amount will only use the amount of the lower card. For example, when you have a 560 with 2Gigs of Vram and another 560 with 1Gig of Vram, the first card will only use 1Gig of Vram to match up with the second card.