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sam53

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Is there any way i can track my sons internet activities (i.e sites visited) without him knowing. He's pretty clued up on computers and on a few occasions my partner has noticed he has been on some sites were not too pleased about. but he deletes the history, cookies and temp internet files on a daily basis.
I dont want to install a program as he will know but i wondered if there were any way of recalling back the history when he deletes it.
I know this sounds bad snooping on your own son but its something my partner and i need to do and if you were in our shoes im sure youd understand.
Any help appreciated. thanks:)
 
there are several keystroke recorders that you can download for free from download.com They run in the background so its not obvious they are there. The only way to pull it up is to know a certain keystroke such as hitting ctl twice. then a window opens up showing what the keystrokes were. The only way he might know its there is to pull up the task manager and see what processes or applications are running. That still might not be real obvious because sometimes they are not labeled in a way that makes it real obvious what they are.
 
its better that u talk to him and be very simple and direct. Dont try to play spy with ur own son. That will take him away from you.
Try to teach him why its not good for him to visit those site which he might be visiting.

The more u try to spy him the more he will get interested in doing it. I can tell u that from my own expereinces.
 
I wopuld talk to your son. Kids need their freedom and if you go snooping around you're taking away his freedom. I have a 14 year old son and he has freedom. He can get online as long as he follows my rules about getting online. It's a trust thing. Put your trust in your son and he will respect you more.
 
sam53 said:
Is there any way i can track my sons internet activities (i.e sites visited) without him knowing. He's pretty clued up on computers and on a few occasions my partner has noticed he has been on some sites were not too pleased about. but he deletes the history, cookies and temp internet files on a daily basis.
I dont want to install a program as he will know but i wondered if there were any way of recalling back the history when he deletes it.
I know this sounds bad snooping on your own son but its something my partner and i need to do and if you were in our shoes im sure youd understand.
Any help appreciated. thanks:)
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I would install a parental control program actually. Sure, give him freedom, but establish some hard boundaries at the same time. Block pornography and other nasties and see how long he sits at the computer for.. lol.. It might be that has nothing to do with it, but in any case you've taken responsibility and not let your kid run amok.

It's an equal responsibility thing. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure as the old, worn out saying goes.

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Communication is the best way to go with a teenager, not keyloggers. Face to face talk time. Like that you are very concerned and you care about him. He could pick up on the keylogger depending on how computer savy he is. There is no good there. Talk to your son and get the parental controls mentioned above by Sirkenin. Let him know there are internet parameters, boundries.
 
jackz4000 said:
Communication is the best way to go with a teenager, not key loggers. Face to face talk time. Like that you are very concerned and you care about him. He could pick up on the key logger depending on how computer savy he is. There is no good there. Talk to your son and get the parental controls mentioned above by Sirkenin. Let him know there are internet parameters, boundaries.
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I know you mean well but You know..... I don't think this person was asking anyone how to raise their child. You give decent advice. The problem is they didn't ask for it. They asked a specific question. I gave the person the benefit of the doubt and respect they deserve by not criticizing their tactics. Let me put it this way. There is nothing wrong with using something to monitor their activities. Especially if your child is clever and doesn't want to listen to reason. You have a right a parent to monitor their activities on the internet. Thats all this person is asking. Get off their back and please stop trying to be a child psychologist here. Its not any of your business. I give them the benefit of the doubt that they know what they are doing and have already done what everybody is advising here. If I were sam53 would be a little insulted. The stuff everybody is advising here is like well....Duh....Unfortunately talking doesn't work 100% of the time 100% effectively. You might get all kinds of combinations of results. For instance they may listen 50% of the time and follow what you say that 50% at 100%. Or they may listen 100% of the time but only end up using what you said 50% of the time. Its not a perfect world. There has to be checks and balances. I'm not telling anyone what they should do. I just know that if after talking to my kid I still had reason to believe they were not following the rules I would let them know they are being monitored. I wouldn't tell them how. I'd would tell them not to be surprised when they get confronted about it...period.
 
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Advitiya Saxena said:
its better that u talk to him and be very simple and direct. Dont try to play spy with ur own son. That will take him away from you.
Try to teach him why its not good for him to visit those site which he might be visiting.

The more u try to spy him the more he will get interested in doing it. I can tell u that from my own expereinces.
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ErnestK said:
I wopuld talk to your son. Kids need their freedom and if you go snooping around you're taking away his freedom. I have a 14 year old son and he has freedom. He can get online as long as he follows my rules about getting online. It's a trust thing. Put your trust in your son and he will respect you more.
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jackz4000 said:
Communication is the best way to go with a teenager, not keyloggers. Face to face talk time. Like that you are very concerned and you care about him. He could pick up on the keylogger depending on how computer savy he is. There is no good there. Talk to your son and get the parental controls mentioned above by Sirkenin. Let him know there are internet parameters, boundries.
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Are you guys even teenagers??

There is no way that a kid will stop what he's doing from what a parent says. I know for a fact, that me and my sister (mainly her) don't listen to what our parents say about computer rules. If they tell us to be off at 10PM, we stay on until they come down and force us to get off.

I would recommend installing a utility that can monitor IM programs, keystrokes, take screenshots of the programs, ect. www.download.com has many useful apps.
 
if its really an issue I would get a router that supports DD-WRT firmware and control the system via router control panel.

Through this control panel you can set up things like access restrictions. These will restrict useage by day, time, and amount of time by IP/MAC address. Secure the router with a password so they can't hack it, and you can even disable the router's reset button with ddwrt firmwre. Just make sure you won't forget the password or you'll never ben able to change any settings.

Examples are: they can surf the net till 10 PM Monday - Thursday, and till 1AM Fri-Sat or whenever you deem reasonable. You can also filter out keywords on website, things like pornography, warez and hacker sites, personal web pages, etc.

The second you install any kind of monitoring software on your computer I am sure your kid will just google how to disable it, or get around it.
 
Not no childpsych here and not on anyones back 'bout nothing. Leeme see here though--he did ask a technikal question and I chimed in with Oprah physcobabble about talking with his kid, my bad. Duh! What a stupid idea. Kid would never listen to the talk-talk. Thanks for pointing that out so well.
 
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Are you guys even teenagers??

There is no way that a kid will stop what he's doing from what a parent says. I know for a fact, that me and my sister (mainly her) don't listen to what our parents say about computer rules. If they tell us to be off at 10PM, we stay on until they come down and force us to get off.

I would recommend installing a utility that can monitor IM programs, keystrokes, take screenshots of the programs, ect. www.download.com has many useful apps.
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No, I'm not a teenager but hey this might come as a surprise to you though. I was once one. LOL... I also have a teenage son. We talk all the time. He knows what he can and can't do. My teen son calls me before he goes into a friends house or before he walks up to the store with friends. It's call trust. If a parent shows they trust the teen, that can go a long way.

My son knows the rules in our house he understands them. If he breaks a rule he will get grounded. If me or my wife tells him he has to get off the computer by 9pm and he don't, the computer will get shut oof and he won't be using it. I will take the power cord to make sure if I have to. But it has never got the that point. He makes sure he's off the computer before I even say times up.
 
ErnestK said:
No, I'm not a teenager but hey this might come as a surprise to you though. I was once one. LOL... I also have a teenage son. We talk all the time. He knows what he can and can't do. My teen son calls me before he goes into a friends house or before he walks up to the store with friends. It's call trust. If a parent shows they trust the teen, that can go a long way.
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I'm exactly the same way, i was mainly referring to when i was younger. I call my parents if i'm going to stay out late, I tell them when I go to a friends house, and where i'm going, and pretty much everything you just described. However there are times when, even though my parents never wanted me looking at "inapropriate websites", I got the urge to ocassionaly, as well as a few other sites.

I believe you should trust your kids, like my parents try to do with my sister, however I see what she really does, and she's always breaking her trust, and lying about it.
 
[-0MEGA-];446747 said:
Are you guys even teenagers??

There is no way that a kid will stop what he's doing from what a parent says. I know for a fact, that me and my sister (mainly her) don't listen to what our parents say about computer rules. If they tell us to be off at 10PM, we stay on until they come down and force us to get off.

I would recommend installing a utility that can monitor IM programs, keystrokes, take screenshots of the programs, ect. www.download.com has many useful apps.
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We r suggesting it because we hav gone through all this in our life, n we dont want one more loving son to generate communication gap with his parents.

Its natural for every teenager to do these things, but let him learn the good part of it.:)
 
yes i agree with [-0MEGA-] the same thing is done to schools right now, teachers always ask students not to open porn sites, but still they acess it, that why schools have netsecurity to prevent this, your computer might even get infected by viruses if you let them access porn sites.
 
I dont know why my post was deleted...This seems to happen often with no explaination, but okay then...


Basicly when i was a teenager, if you told me not to look at a website, it would not have stoped me, i would go without even a second thought about it still maybe even go more now that i know its unwanted. If i ever have kids i hope they arn't as much as a bastard as me
 
I'm a teenager and I always surf the net. There's no way you can control him using the net. Porn is just one click away. Cleaning the traces is too easy especially using CCleaner.
 
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