i'm coming in late on this one, so forgive me if my ideas are not upto cratch.
I think that a summary of a few questions will help me or trizoy (or others for that matter) help you.
Firstly forget the D-Link DI-514. Just hook up the Lync sys router.
Dont re-enable the wireless just yet. (At this stage your house will not be wireless at all!)
Now goto your desktop, plug in the wireless adapater (which i'm assuming is usb). Wait for it to find the hardware... just a minute or two....
Then goto start menu -> run -> ncpa.cpl (this will load your network connections).
Find you wireless connection, should be easy to spot, right click and press properties. I'm not sure if your on sp1 or sp2 so i'll to accomodate both (but your prob on sp2).
1. Goto general tab, scroll down to Internet Protocol (TCP/IP), select it and press properties button.
2. Your now in the general tab of the TCP/IP properties, ensure that the option on this tab are
....a) Obtain an IP address automatically
....b) Obtain DNS server address automatically
3. Goto Altenative configuration tab, and ensure that it is selected "automatic private IP address"
(i know it may seem like i'm humouring you but lets all be sure we are starting on the same page)
4. Click ok
5. Know your back in the wireless properties page select the 'Wireless Networks' tab
6. In the bottom selection where it say Preferred Network, select any network that you have in there and press remove, continue untill you removed them all (there will prob only be on).
7. Click on the adavanced tab, and depending on your version (sp1 or sp2) turn of the windows firewall (in sp2 you may need to click settings, in sp1 just un check the option)
8. Click OK
Now go back to dads pc and log into you Lync sys router settings. (note while we are playing with the setting be sure to click save settings often before navigating between tabs)
Goto setup page
Ensure
1. Internet connection type is set to DCHP
2. Futher down the page ensure that Network Address Server Settings (DHCP) is set to enabled, and Starting IP Address is set to 192.168.1.100.
3. goto wireless tab
4. Ensure Wireless Network Mode, is set to mixed or g only, and Wireless SSID Broadcast is enables (you would have set this to disable earlier, so only now we are turning on the wireless network)
5. Goto the the wirelss MAC filter tab (it in the Wireless main tab you are already in), and ensure MAC filtering is not turned on.
Now lets move to the secuirty tab, dont worry about the firewall, or vpn tabs they wont effect us here. Click on the wireless security tab
Ensure that wireless security is disable (none)
Goto the access restrictions tab, the top drop down box should be empty, if there are any numbers in the tab drop down box this means that there are restictions in place, you should select them one by one and delete them
alright ensure yousaved all your setings (which you should have been doing anyway

) and get back to your besktop.
goto start menu -> run -> ncpa.cpl (this will load your network connections).
Find you wireless connection right click and press "view available wireless networks"
Up pop the next box, now can you "see" your network (if not press refresh a few times (may need to press properties then refresh if you sp1) ), if you still cant see your network then tell me in your next post
If you can see your network you will not that it is not wep encrytpes (if sp1 click the check box to connect anyway then press connect, if sp2 click connect and then tell windows it;s ok to connect to the non encypted network.
Wait a while for it to connect.
once connected goto start menu -> run -> type "cmd" (excluding quotes) and press enter
then type
ipconfig
What is the ip address
try the internet, does it work?
if not go back to the cmd windows and type
ping
www.google.com
note down the first few lines and tell me them
then try
ping 66.249.93.104
note down the first few lines and tell me them
now we should have an idea of where you in the process.